All or Nothing

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Daily Prompt “Perhaps when we find ourselves wanting everything, it is because we are dangerously close to wanting nothing.” — Sylvia Plath

Depressed,lonely life is full of shit

Human is merely drowning in a ditch

Materialistic things you need not possess

All you need is a somber angelic bless

Love, gratitude hold no meaning

When you lose touch with that eternal feeling

Every Nirbhaya cries her heart out in pain

Thousands gather but all in vain

Wake up and save your mothers, sisters and friends

Wake up and let your hearts cleanse

All or Nothing?

Bazaar of Arranged Marriages

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********* A Fictitious letter from a Son to his parents *********

Dear Mom and Dad,

I write to you today to thank you for all the blessings I have received. I pen my words to thank you for the education you gave me, the trouble you took to see me hale and hearty. I remember Dad getting me expensive toys when I demanded them and Mom pressuring Dad to fulfil my desires.

Mom and Dad, you supported me when I went for my first interview, got my first job, and gave you my first paycheck. I thank you Mom and Dad for all the wonderful things you did for me.

Mom, when the time came for me to get married, you decided that I would marry the person of your choice. Dad, you made sure that the family from who proposals arrived matched our stature.

You asked the girl if she can cook, you asked her if she could sing. Mom and Dad, you made sure that she matched me in my looks and height. You did not stop at that, you then asked her about her income; how would she distribute it after getting married? You asked her parents about the ‘D’ word. You demanded them a four-wheeler for me to facilitate my commute to office and to take their daughter to movies and outings occasionally. You asked them how much cash they are going to give their daughter, and  the weight of gold she is going to get to her marital home. You demanded respect from them even though you never deemed them worthy of any respect.

Mom, Dad, you argued that you are doing this to ensure a bright future for your son. You gave me the best in everything and helped me earn a position of respect in the society. I earn a reasonable salary, thanks to you, to buy myself a car and take care of my family. You enabled me to stand on my own feet and today I am successful enough to give all the comforts you have given me, to my wife and future children. I do not need my in-laws to support me for that.

Further, Mom and Dad, I do not wish to marry a singer or a cook, all I need is a soul mate who will be with me through thick and thin, someone who will love me with all my faults and will not desert me when I am not fit enough to stand on my own. I wish to marry someone who is as human as I am. I do not wish her to have exceptional talents but rather prefer that she is a little humble, a little crazy and a lot more genuine.

Mom and Dad, please stop advertising me in the Bazaar of Arranged Marriages as the latest commodity and cause me discomfort when I look myself in the mirror every morning.

I love you Mom and Dad, but I would love and respect you more if you trust me to find the right person for myself, irrespective of her talents, status and looks.

Yours,

Indian Son raised as a commodity for Arranged Marriages

Outlook of Indian Real Estate post New Government

India, with a population of over 1.2 billion requires manifold increase in resources and faster development which should be able to cater to the needs of its ever increasing requirements. The successive governments in the country had accepted the fact to support the growth of Infrastructure and also framed various policies to achieve the same. The internal hurdles faced by coalition governments and the gaps in demand and supply of resources kept on defeating the policies at various stages. The 16th Lok Sabha elections were different from earlier elections where the country has seen a political party which was for most of the period sitting in Opposition, projecting a person as its Prime Ministrial candidate. Mr. Narendra Modi who has already proved his mettle in Gujarat as Chief Minister of State was projected as symbol of Development. The election manifesto of Bhartiya Janata Party which was considered to have been drafted on the lines of dictats of Mr. Narendra Modi, had besides other promises given prime place to the Infrastructure Development in the country. Soon after assuming the seat of Prime Minister he released a list which highlights his priority for: Education, Health, Water, Energy, Roads, Infrastructure and investment reforms, stability and Sustain ability in government policy.

The development of Infrastructure directly influences Real Estate in the comman area as the infrastructure development leads to growth of Agriculture, Industry Services and Business (ISB) sector resulting in Employment Generation and higher standard of living all of which need more and more space for their existence.

Public Private Partnership (PPP)

Narendra Modi Government is not averse to PPP and with a clear majority in the Government it may not be difficult for him to have a smooth sail with the policy which prescribed protection of National interest.

Foreign Direct Assistance (FDA)

Though the BJP had earlier opposed foreign direct investment in retail it is reportedly condering FDA upto 49% in various sectors to bridge the gaps in demand and supply of funds required for growth. The investors inland and abroad flush with funds are waiting for a stable government with transparency and sustainability in its policies and only need a boost to their confidence with continuous reforms.

Revenue Sharing

Any development brings additional revenue for the government in the form of additional or new taxes. Sharing of revenue generated between the Centre and State has always remained a burning issue. The GST policy drafted by erstwhile UPA Govt. may streamline and solve the problem of revenue sharing between the governments.

In the first quarter of its existence the Modi Government had given indications that it is serious for implementing its manifesto and if it succeeds in crossing hurdles no wonder Real Estate sector has brighter outlook during the next 5 years.

Child Marriages in India

Indian constitution permits legal age of marriage of a girl child to be 18 and that of a boy as 21. However, it is shocking to hear in everyday news and witness girls aged much less than 18 , sometimes even infants, married off to boys twice her age and even men above 60. Child Marriage is a custom prevalent in India since long, specially in states of Rajasthan, Andhra Pradesh, Bihar, Madhya Pradesh, and Uttar Pradesh.

UNICEF has revealed that child marriages are mostly prevalent in Africa, South Asia and European countries, however statistics suggest that India with its huge population rates the highest in terms of child marriage. 22% of girls in India are married off before they reach the age of 18, as per UNICEF.

Why child marriage started in India?

In ancient times, child marriage was considered as a way of sealing the alliance between two families to maintain friendly ties and avoid feudal wars as also a means to ensure the girl was in safe hands once the parents were not there to take care of her. It is noteworthy that mortality rate was quiet high then and most women died while giving birth, leaving the father to re-marry. It was thus an assurance by the society that the girl would be safe and taken care of in her marital home. Also, in low-income households, it meant the family will have one less mouth to feed.

As medical science progressed and life spans increased , parents were able to devote 30 plus years of their life to the upbringing of their child. However, the concept of child marriage refused to die.

What are the consequences?

Marrying a child , whether it be a boy or a girl, who is below the age of legal definitions , is a violence of the fundamental rights of the child to acquire proper education. It violates his/her right to receive proper nutrition and health care as most of them are not aware of their basic needs and do not possess enough maturity.

In case of girls this is even worse, as once a girl reaches puberty , she is at risk of an early pregnancy. At this tender age, she is not aware of contraceptive procedures and is declined education , including sex education as most marital homes do not permit her to go to school. As a result most girls drop out of school once they are married.

A child bride has no access to educational material and the world outside is a complete stranger to her. Such a birth leads to emotional and mental trauma for the girl as she is not physically ready to bear the child within her. How can a mother who is not mentally prepared for a child , ensure proper future for the baby? Girls married to men much older her age are at risk of abuse and exploitation.

What is being done to curb the practice of child marriage:

Looking at the bright side, many organizations like ‘Girls not Brides’ campaign are working towards ensuring that this cruel practice is stopped. Prohibition of Child Marriage Act, 2006 has been passed to curb the practice in India. However, it still remains a concern in India, especially in the rural areas. Cases like Laxmi Sargara, an 18 year old girl from Rajasthan who was betrothed when she was an infant and resisted her parents decision to seek annulment of the marriage are few, but seem to bring some hope for the victims.

Lots remain to be done to ensure that the practice of child marriage even with the parent’s consent is curbed and no child is denied the basic rights and freedom.